I have been a long time fan of the famous long running show, The X-Files, since I was a little girl. I didn’t understand much at 7 when it came out (but I still enjoyed it and watched it religiously with my family and best friend’s family) and then I rewatched the earlier shows again when I was an early teen on VHS (anyone remember those days)?! The X-Files has been a lifelong constant love (and sometimes a much needed outlet).
I have been fortunate to meet many other long time fans through social media and in the last 2 years have made many trips to various comic con events and concerts (David Duchovny aka Mulder – whom in the last few years has added singer/songwriter to his long list of creative accomplishments).
When David Duchovny announced he would perform an acoustic show in Vancouver, B.C. and a group of us decided to plan a trip to sightsee some famous filming locations while we were in the area. There were about 15 of us who traveled from all over the world to sightsee together. I stayed in an Airbnb with 6 other women in a little neighborhood called Kitsalano. I loved that the area was walkable, had a Whole Foods close by and the beach was beautiful (even on a typical dreary Vancouver day).
X marks the spot! Back to where it all began 24 years ago! Episode reenactments from the pilot.
Scully and Mulder’s Apartments
The house Mulder and Scully shared for some time ❤️😢
Grouse Mountain aka “skyland mountain” from the series ie: Scully’s abduction episodes, “Duane Barry” and “Ascension.”
Reenactment from the Season 10 premiere “My Struggle”
Capilano Suspension Bridge (not show related but a great local tourist spot)
My favorite spot on the entire trip, hands down, was Buntzen Lake aka “Lake Okobogee” from the episode “Quagmire.”
“Amazing laughter” at Stanley Park in English Bay
And because I’m such a foodie, here are a few recommendations of my favorite places to eat in Vancouver 👌
I returned from my trip so excited about taking Jerry and Connor back to Vancouver this coming fall for a long weekend. I want Connor to experience Grouse Mountain, Buntzen Lake and the Capilano Suspension Bridge. I know without a doubt those are three places he would love to explore. The weather was perfect in early October; not too cold and definitely not too hot. Luckily, Vancouver is only a 2 hour direct flight from Salt Lake City! We have been looking at our budget and really trying to make changes in our grocery bill (which is the bulk of where our money goes besides regular bills). We have already made positive changes in the last week and we are excited to save for our family trip to Vancouver this time next year!
So there is my short summary with photos of my amazing fangirl trip in the beautiful city of Vancouver, B.C. I will continue searching for the truth no matter where I go….
When Minnie died we were all very sad but it wasn’t long before we knew we needed to find another furry best friend for our family. Our family didn’t feel complete without a dog in our home or to accompany us on outings and Connor just wasn’t the same kiddo without a dog. Period. We knew we needed to start looking at local rescues asap. And so we did.
About two weeks after we lost Minnie, Moonshine, a 1 year old male border collie/Great Pyrenees, mix came into our lives from a local rescue group called rescue rovers. And he had quite the rescue story.
Apparently Moonshine lived with his brother on a ranch in Oklahoma and when their owner died, they left the ranch together to find food. They ended up at the local vet who had seen them before and knew them, which is how we know this story in the first place. Their owner who died didn’t have any other family around. The vet worked with the local rescue there and the pups were transferred to Denver and then onto SLC to a foster family with rescue rovers (his brother was adopted around the same time as him – they were not bonded so they didn’t require them to be rescued as a pair).
We told the rescue group we wanted a dog who was friendly and loved everyone and one we could hike and camp with (of course). We were hesitant at first that Moonshine was so large (and hairy) but Jerry went to meet him first before Connor and I did and he said, “he’s definitely the one for us.” A couple days later, we all met him together and as soon as we said hello to him, he flopped down and rolled onto his back so we could pet his belly. That’s when we all knew he was perfect for us.
The first couple days at home were difficult for me. I missed Minnie a lot and I was nervous about Moonshine transitioning into our home and family. He whined a lot and wanted to be on the front porch all the time and didn’t like the fences back yard at all. Now I knew he was a watch dog and maybe he just needed to see outside, so we stayed outside a lot with him. On day 3, I had been out for a bit and came home to the 3 boys out front in our large cul de sac and Moonshine was off leash, staying with them and coming when called (if needed). Moonshine was SO excited to see me and ran straight to me. I couldn’t believe he was off leash and bonded to us all after just 3 days. And our bond with him has just continued to grow this past year.
I love the way he looks up to me or Jerry for reassurance when he is unsure of something. I love that he loves to hike and camp as much as we do and we never have to use a leash when we’re out there. He always stays close by and if he gets a little ahead, he runs back to check on us and let us know he’s alright. I love that he waits for permission to leave the house with us, to get up in the car or to get into the water when we hike (or the streams or lake by our house). I love his deep and loud single barks to alert us when he thinks we need it. I love his dedication to Connor, his gentle and sweet nature with him and all kids and adults he meets. I love the way he comes to me at the end of the day and snuggles against me and on my lap. I love his loyalty and devotion to us all. Jerry and I have each had many dogs in our lives and a few together but we can both honestly say Moonshine is the cream of the crop, the best of the best. We really really lucked out with him. We are all so thankful he chose us when we met him. We look forward to many more years of adventures with him by our sides!
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Our family has been making the hour trip to Antelope Island a handful of times a year since we moved to SLC 3 plus years ago. It’s best to come in early spring or mid fall (anytime in-between results so many bugs in the air it can be difficult to walk comfortably through them). The state park is also a great place to see antelope and bison when you can spot them!
Today Connor, Moonshine and I had quite the adventure at the island by ourselves. Our favorite spot to park at is the ladyfinger camping site. There is a soft sandy path from this parking lot down to this beach which we always enjoy.
On the way back to the car, Connor told me he had to poop RIGHT NOW! So that’s not Moonshine’s poop I’m holding but it is in his poop bags 😂 Connor kept saying he didn’t have to bring his toilet seat when we camp now and he could squat outside like us (yay – finally – no more strapping that huge toilet seat to our pack)!
When we finally made our way back to the car, I threw our coats in the car, my backpack and apparently my keys, too. I accidentally locked us out without realizing it! I stopped a passerby and asked to use their phone then called Jerry to tell him we needed help. Connor, Moonshine and I sat on the cold ground for about 1 hour plus until he arrived to help us out. In the whole time, no one passing ever asked us if we needed help (which was a good lesson for me to teach Connor about being observant and asking people if they need help if they look like they may).
So there we have it – a funny adventure and a somewhat scary one (being stranded is always a little nerve-wracking) all in one outing! And I cannot believe Connor is over 4 years old and this is the first time I’ve locked us out of the car! Things just always feel a little more hectic with a kiddo and a dog in tow, ya know?!
In September, the boys did an overnight camp at this location in Spanish Fork, Utah and raved about how much they loved it.
So a few days ago, I returned with them for the 5 mile out and back hike and we enjoyed a dip in the hot springs while our dog, Moonshine, kept watch. And then 4 days later I took Connor and Moonshine by myself because we loved it so much we had to go back again!
It’s a relatively easy hike (Connor let us wear him in our Tula most of the hike so we made good time) and the colors of the leaves are gorgeous this time of year. There were enough spots easily accessible for Moonshine to take a dip in the water himself which we always appreciate. We were able to filter our own water as well. Connor loves to help Jerry filter water and I am amazed that by 4 years old, he already understands the dos and don’ts and how to of filtering his own water!
*This is a popular location so we recommend getting there as early as possible to get the best spots in the hot springs and to get a parking spot of course.
This coming Friday (on Jerry’s birthday unfortunately 10-13), marks 1 year since we made the difficult decision to put our precious Minnie (our 13 year old Pomeranian) to sleep after a short and sudden decline.
We had taken her to the vet 3 times in 5 days and I finally insisted on an X-ray and before the vet could even tell me what was wrong, I knew it. She had growths that had spread everywhere and that explained her not drinking, eating and throwing up when I had tried to make her something special (chicken broth and eggs). Connor was with me at the vet and he was only 3 and a few months old at the time. I openly displayed my emotions and told him the truth. Even if he did not fully accept what was going on, we are still thankful we involved him in the entire process.
The vet gave her a shot to make her comfortable because it was clear she was in distress and he asked me what I wanted to do. And here comes the difficult and controversial part – do we keep her comfortable at home until she does pass or do we humanely help ease her suffering?
Having worked as a hospice social worker before becoming a stay at home parent, the decision was easy for me (and Jerry). While I believe in comfort and being pain free at end of life, I also believe physician assisted suicide should also be legal in every state for whomever is able to make that decision for themselves. Jerry and I decided we didn’t want her to suffer and maybe there was a little selfishness involved; we couldn’t give her the time and attention we would want to at the end because we still had to be fully present with Connor, too.
We don’t regret doing what we did because we were all there together when it happened, surrounding her and I was kissing and petting her as she drifted off to sleep.
In the last year we have talked about her often; sharing memories with Connor every time he says he misses her. We have really kept her memory very much alive and I think that’s the best thing you can do with anyone you love who passes – keep them close and never stop thinking about them or talking about them.
When Jerry and I met, I had a male Pomeranian, Max (3) I had recently rescued (bless his heart – he was an aggressive territorial little guy who always peed in the house no matter what we did. But if it wasn’t for him barking at Jerry when he was walking his roommate’s dog, we would have never met)! Jerry and I had been together 6 months when we decided to look for another dog. My stepdad knew someone who knew someone who needed to re-home a 2 year old female Pom. We briefly talked on the phone with the family who was fostering her until they could find her forever home. We saw one photo (she looked like an adorable tiny red fox) and we decided we definitely wanted to add her to our family. Jerry drove from Kentucky to Ohio to get her and he brought her home to us. Everyday thereafter, we would worship Mrs. Minnie Minkins aka Skinsy Minsy.
Jerry and I have so many hilarious stories about Minnie. Like how we used to sneak her into hotels in suitcases so she could stay with us (we thought she was too much of a princess to put in a kennel when we would put our other two dogs together in one – Max and we had adopted an 8 year old husky, Chloe…both passed some time before Connor was born). But anyhow, we also had our own “Minnie language” and “mins” words we made up. “Minslarious…(hilarious)….”riminsulous” (ridiculous)
When Jerry and I finished school and I got a job in Eastern Kentucky, we were all separated Monday-Friday for 4 months until Jerry and our other two dogs moved to be with us. Minnie kept me company during the week and on the 2 hour drive back and forth. I rented a little above garage 1 bedroom apartment during that time and I knew she was the only one who could hold her bladder if needed (with me being on the road in and out of people’s homes and facilities I really never knew what hours I would keep). All I did those 4 months was work and go back home on the weekends and I was always so thankful she was always by my side during that transition.
Our most favorite joint Minnie memory pre-Connor is every time she would finally decide to crawl out from the bed (her hiding space) and grace us with her prescience, we would sing, “there she is….Miss Aminsica” (there she is, miss America!”
Minnie always tolerated Connor very well but we can’t say she ever truly cared to be messed much with by him! Connor loved to bring her in the bike trailer with him and she did really well with it; only one time did she actually jump out and take off (Jerry said he had never seen her run faster than that time)! He also liked her to be inside other items with him: the wagon, laundry baskets, boxes…you name it, he probably tried it!
I really treasured the last few years of Minnie’s life. They were the most difficult for me post-partum but I also cherished a the times she snuggles up with us while Connor was breastfeeding.
Sometimes you get in the car and you have a concrete plan. Other times, you just pack up your gear and go. This trip was one of those times. We headed towards Vernal, Utah and we checked out a couple places we thought would work out but they weren’t kid/dog friendly (who wants to set up camp where people left shell casings and broken beer bottles everywhere)?!
Luckily, we had seen a KOA campsite in town. We all discussed it and agreed it wasn’t the camping we had it mind but we were 3 hours from home and we set out to tent camp for the night and that’s what we were still going to do!
The campsite was VERY kid friendly. There was so much for Connor to explore before we set up our tents, made dinner and called it a night.
The lesson learned from this trip is that you can always find something to do, even if it wasn’t the original plan; you just have to be open to new experiences and making the best of what you have available.
As warmer weather approached and spring was in the air, Connor was excited to go camping again. Riding high off the successful adventure in Goblin Valley, we decided to give Capitol Reef another try. We found the same camping spot we had before and then did one better. We followed a small trail in the back of the camping area and went a couple hundred feet up into the mountains and found some terrific and secluded places to camp. We chased lizards, played on rocks, practiced climbing mountains (Connor wanted practice so when he’s older he can do it for real), ate s’mores and enjoyed a cozy night of sleep.
The next day we went on a few small hikes in the park and looked for….scorpions and tarantulas of course! Unfortunately for Connor (and fortunately for us) we struck out on those two cheaters but still had a wonderful time looking at all the caterpillars that had recently hatched.
We love camping in the desert for a number of reasons but none more so than it adds months to our camping calendar since it’s warmer there longer.
Connor had been asking to go camping where he could find scorpions and tarantulas. It was early spring, so the desert seemed like a great place to visit, but Jerry was still nervous about driving that far and Connor possibly not wanting to stay overnight. Jerry decided to throw caution to the wind and just go for it. He decided on goblin valley because it’s great for kids and was only about 4 hours from our home. Connor absolutely loved it! They explored for about 1 hour and then found a great campsite just a few miles outside the park to set up camp. After setting up camp, they went back to goblin valley to find lizards, beetles, a cave, beautiful scenery and of course goblin like features rising from the desert floor. They did not find any scorpions or tarantulas unfortunately (or fortunately depending on one’s tastes). The night went really well, Connor absolutely loved it and they returned home to tell Momma and Moonshine all about it (with Connor declaring he was a camping kiddo at this point)!
*We decided since it was the desert and it would be warm with no water features for Moonshine to swim in, he would stay home with Heather. He doesn’t do well when it’s warm and he doesn’t have access to at least a stream of water to cool off in. We have had him almost 1 year and have never left him as a family. We have found out from experience that he has separation anxiety from Connor after a couple days time so we’re holding off leaving him as long as possible!
Today is Connor’s first day of preschool at Little Farmer’s Preschool at Petersen Family Farm. He attended farm camp Friday there last year so he is familiar with the school and was eager to return for a new school year.
This year he will be going on Monday, Wednesday and Friday mornings. We are excited for him to continue learning in an outdoor environment that enables him to explore in nature vs. what most traditional programs offer. He loves learning about animals, growing crops on a farm and right now specifically he is interested in everything to do with being able to read on his own soon!
One of our favorite things about the location of his preschool is that it’s the same place we get our weekly CSA basket! And if we need to buy something mid week, it’s much easier now to just pop in the market when we’re there to pickup or drop Connor off because we’re right there! We love supporting this 5th generation local family farm.
In conclusion, we truly hope Connor has a wonderful school year (and we enjoy a little more freedom without him by our side, too)! 😂 It’s no secret that we’re all very close and we’re never apart (we don’t use babysitters – so school is a little break for mommy and daddy)! Heather will be volunteering one morning a week when Jerry is home to do dropoff and pickup.
We are playing “the minimalists” “minsgame” for the 4th time this month. Our family has been minimizing our possessions for about 3 years now (we didn’t always document what we donated, trashed or sold – this same amount or more has been given away in addition to what you see in the photos). What’s shocking is anything that’s given away NOW has remained thus far; which just goes to show that we still have things that we do not find value in that others may, which is why we are playing another round!
Connor has been our biggest inspiration on this journey. We did not practice minimalism when he was born or during infancy (although we know it would have made our postpartum time more peaceful)! We started donating items when he was around 1 but we got really serious about it when he was 3, which we felt was a crucial time in his development. Kids repeatedly ask for things, or to go shopping at OUR favorite stores when they see us constantly consuming; that’s not something we want to teach him. We are raising Connor to value time spent with loved ones, having experiences vs buying things and giving back as priorities. In our materialistic world, this starts with us leading by example.
When we began donating items, we simply explained why and he has given away many things as well. Once he gave his best friend his tricycle he was no longer using. He also tried to give him the jacket off his back which was very sweet but we had to explain how it was still adding value to his life by keeping him warm and dry!
We follow a “one in/one out” rule with anything new that comes into our lives and into our home. Connor’s toys are open ended which allow for more imaginative play. Besides riding his bike and exploring outside (of course) he enjoys renting and reading new books from the library, building new Lego creations and playing with whatever he can find in the fenced backyard.
Through the simple process of getting rid of things we no longer use, we have been able to live with more intention in our day to day lives. We have more peace, more time to spend with Connor and less stress worrying over “things” that don’t matter at all. One year ago, Heather was able to return to volunteering in a hospice house for the homeless on days Jerry is home from work to stay with Connor. She will be able to increase her time volunteering as Connor spends more time in school. We involve Connor in giving back in simple ways now and look forward to involving him more as he grows.
Living a more mindful, intentional and simple life continues to benefit us all. There has never been a moment when we’ve said “you know what, we want to go back to our old ways of aimlessly spending money that we didn’t actually have” or “boy, I sure do miss constantly picking up stuff all over the house all the time.” We shared our story here so that others who are interested in this lifestyle may find the same peace in living simply, too and in doing so, find more resources to do whatever you value most.
“Minimalism is applicable to anyone. Anyone with an open mind that is.” – The Minimalists